The myth of Highly Confident People

In a post on LinkedIn Few Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do  Gaurav Kamboj talks about some people "who don’t make comparisons, don’t find joy in people-pleasing, don’t require anyone’s permission to act. don’t avoid doing the scary thing, don’t make excuses" and so on.

Here is my comment to Gaurav's post:
There is no such thing as highly confident people. The human condition has been described by the masters of literature, like Shakespeare. There is not one highly confident character in any play of Shakespeare, in any book of Dostoevsky or John Steinbeck.  You created a fiction, like James Bond, Superman, Spiderman and so on. Which is great, but do not pretend others to take your model in real life. 
The fictional James Bond's health has been analyzed in an article from British Medical Journal and reported in Scientific American.
 during one dinner with his nemesis Auric Goldfinger, Bond had 18 drinks before somehow driving himself safely home. “Despite his alcohol consumption,” the study authors write, “he is still described as being able to carry out highly complicated tasks and function at an extraordinarily high level. This is likely ... pure fiction.”
Bond would have been sexually dysfunctional and there is no way to seduce so many ladies, as in the moment of truth the bed for Mr. Bond  would be a place for sleeping fighting horrendous headaches.

Silicon Valley mythology has created a super entrepreneur called Steve Jobs, which is a fiction and has nothing to do with the real person.

Someone asked the Austrian writer Arthur Schnitzler why his works all seemed to treat the same subjects. He replied, "I write of love and death. What other subjects are there?"

If we look at the real Steve Jobs, we quickly realize that Steve - an adopted child - strives for love and acceptance. His last years - when he had the happiest family and biggest success an entrepreneur can dream, he fought with the cancer and the specter of death. Every day is precious.

What Gaurav recommends "don’t make excuses, don’t find joy in people-pleasing" are surface, observations of a much deeper yearning of a mortal Steve Jobs

Few people know Stanley Kubrick's movie Eyes Wide Shut with Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman is inspired from an Arthur Schnitzler novella,  Dream Story . Here is final dialog from the movie:
 Bill: What are we going to do now?
Alice: I think we should both be grateful that we have come unharmed out of all our adventures, whether they were real or only a dream.
Bill: Are you really sure that?
Alice: Only as sure as I am that the reality of one night, let alone that of a whole lifetime, is not the whole truth. And no dream is entirely a dream.
I can see these lines are too deep for a  pep positive article on LinkedIn. Our success could be a dream or a reality, but we can never be sure. The very last lines are down to earth:

Alice Harford: I do love you and you know there is something very important we need to do as soon as possible.
Dr. Bill Harford: What's that?
Alice Harford: Fuck.


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