The Yes inside the No

A teenage boy in the autistic spectrum greeted everyone in the social skill class with the same words: "You are all such wonderful people! Only I am a loser!". He repeats the phrase many times a day.

You readers of this blog,  probably you felt at times the same as this boy.But you could get it over by yourselves.

The Child Mind Blog, Brainstorm, has an entry about Jennifer Lawrence, the movie star

 ...for many it might come as something of a shock to hear that she struggled with social anxiety as a school-age child. Lawrence's mother, the actress confides to a French magazine, "always told me there was like a light in me, a spark that inspired me constantly. When I entered school, the light went out." 

  And as new struggles surface, self-esteem often plummets. For many kids, the key to recovering their confidence is to have an experience that instills a sense of mastery—a reminder that a child is in charge of her trajectory. It should come as no shock that for Lawrence that experience was stepping on stage.

 To be clear, not everyone is destined for Hollywood, and not everyone has access to transformative talent. But still, her message rings true: With effort and support, any kid can thrive. She gives credit where it's due, too. Lawrence says that her mother fought for her to be an actress because she "saw the change that was taking place in me. She saw my anxieties disappear." 

One of the mornings I woke with the big question:

How can I get at least one Yes from He who always listens? Most of time He says No. There is nothing we can do, but hope.

The young kabbalist and freelance writer from Yeshiva University, Yonatan Gordon responded:

maybe these "no"s are in actuality higher levels of "yes"'? Chassidut teaches this, but we still work to see revealed good

The entire Silicon Valley was built by people who managed to see the Yes that exists inside  every No